Dating After Divorce: Relationship Expert Offers Tips

Jumping back into the dating world after a divorce can seem incredibly daunting, but with a little guidance, divorc?s can enter the dating pool with ease.

Relationship expert Tamsen Fadal stopped by The Talk on Monday to offer up some advice to make dating post-divorce a little less stressful.

One of the most important things Fadal advises is to start dating on your own time, and not feeling pressured if your ex enters the dating pool first.

"A lot of times we're paying attention to what our ex is doing after that breakup happens, wondering who he's with, if he's seeing somebody," she said. "It's not a contest to see who gets out there first...You date when you are ready to get back out there and not before."

Fadal isn't the only relationship expert who suggests waiting until you're ready before dating again. Marni Battista, relationship coach and founder of Dating with Dignity, teaches that being able talk about your ex without immediately putting him or her down is a good indication that you are ready for a new romance.

To hear more of Fadal's advice for divorc?s looking to date again -- including how long you should wait before becoming intimate -- check out the full clip above. Then click through the slideshow below to see what celebrities have had to say about dating after divorce.

• Jennie Garth

  Peter Facinelli <a href="http://www.tmz.com/2012/03/28/peter-facinelli-divorce-jennie-garth/">filed for divorce</a> from Jennie Garth in March 2012, after <a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20582221,00.html">11 years of marriage </a>and three children together. In November 2012, the former "90210" actress sat down with Jeff Probst to <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/11/02/jennie-garth-divorce-actr_n_2066981.html">discuss her newly single status</a>. "The minute I think I?m ready to start dating I?m like, 'Oh no you?re not,'" <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/11/02/jennie-garth-divorce-actr_n_2066981.html">she told the host</a>. "I just don't know how to date," <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/11/02/jennie-garth-divorce-actr_n_2066981.html">she later admitted</a>. But apparently Garth is learning the ropes once again. She is rumored to be dating <a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20663930,00.html">Big Giant drummer Jeremy Salken. </a>

• Louis C.K.

  Louis C.K. and painter Alix Bailey <a href="http://www.usmagazine.com/entertainment/news/louis-ck-5-things-you-dont-know-2012219">divorced in 2008</a>. In a 2010 interview with <a href="http://www.npr.org/2010/07/07/128343426/comedian-louis-c-k-finding-laughs-post-divorce">NPR's Terry Gross</a>, the comedian opened up about <a href="http://www.npr.org/2010/07/07/128343426/comedian-louis-c-k-finding-laughs-post-divorce">his experience dating again</a> after the split. "You sort of feel like you just got out of prison," <a href="http://www.npr.org/2010/07/07/128343426/comedian-louis-c-k-finding-laughs-post-divorce">C.K. explained. </a>"And they give you the suit you were convicted in. And they give you a paper bag with a watch and a wallet in it. And they give you eight bucks and a bus ticket and the cars are going way too fast and you can't cross the street -- and you're considering going into a motel and hanging yourself after carving your initials. And you know, there's not a lot of women my age who're single. If they're single it's because something happened -- or didn't happen -- so I started immediately dating women who were younger than me. That's a very strange dynamic. And from their point of view, it's like they're dating a dead person. It's like a corpse. That's how I see myself through their eyes."

• Eva Longoria

  Eva Longoria <a href="http://www.tmz.com/2010/11/16/eva-longoria-tony-parker-divorce-san-antonio-spurs-desperate-housewives/">filed for divorce</a> from NBA basketball player Tony Parker in November 2010 amid <a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20442932,00.html">rumors of his infidelity</a>. In <a href="http://www.mylifetime.com/shows/the-conversation-with-amanda-de-cadenet/episodes/season-1">May 2012</a>, the former "Desperate Housewives" star <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DwaRJr9qUrA">sat down with Amanda de Cadenet </a>to talk about re-entering the dating world post-split. "I remember a friend of mine got divorced right before me when it wasn't even on my radar to be divorced and I go, 'How exciting! Aren't you excited? You get to date people, you get to have a first kiss, a first date, a first sex with somebody. Isn't that great? It's gonna be fun!'" <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DwaRJr9qUrA">Longoria said</a>. "And she was like, 'No, I'm terrified.' I'm like, 'Why?' She's beautiful, she's gorgeous, she's smart. And then when I got divorced, she was like, 'Aren't you excited?' And I was like, 'No, f*** you! Don't give me my advice!'"

• Brandi Glanville

  Eddie Cibrian <a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20300442,00.html">filed for divorce</a> from Brandi Glanville -- his wife of eight years -- in August 2009. In October 2012, the "Real Housewives of Beverly Hills" star <a href="http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/brandi-glanville-i-dont-date-but-i-make-out-with-everyone--20122310">spoke to Us Weekly </a>about her difficulties navigating the dating world after divorce. "I don't really 'date,'" <a href="http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/brandi-glanville-i-dont-date-but-i-make-out-with-everyone--20122310">she said</a>. "What is that? I make out! It's hard to meet guys because they want to date you because you are on TV, or there are guys who like you but don't want anything to do with you because you are on TV. It's a hard road."

• Zooey Deschanel

  Zooey Deschanel <a href="http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/gossip/2012/01/zooey-deschanel-divorce-ben-gibbard.html">filed for divorce</a> from Death Cab For Cutie frontman Ben Gibbard in December 2011 after <a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20305870,00.html">two years of marriage</a>. The "New Girl" star talked about returning to the dating game in the <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/09/zooey-deschanel-marie-claire-divorce-dating_n_1412486.html">May 2012 issue of Marie Claire. </a> ?Honestly, I?m just going through a divorce, so I don?t really think that?s something I want to get into now," <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/09/zooey-deschanel-marie-claire-divorce-dating_n_1412486.html">Deschanel said</a>. "I don?t have time to date. I literally ?- don?t-have-time."

• Courteney Cox

  After 11 years of marriage, Courteney Cox and David Arquette <a href="http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/david-arquette-why-courteney-cox-and-i-split-20101210">announced their separation</a> in October 2010. In February 2012, the "Cougar Town" actress opened up about how hard it was for her to <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/21/courteney-cox-actress-has_n_1291379.html">date again after the split.</a> "I'm a homebody -- I don't really like to go out," <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/21/courteney-cox-actress-has_n_1291379.html">Cox said</a>. "I love restaurants, I love to have people over to my house. But I'm not really one to do a lot of stuff -- so I don't know how that all that happens... that part's a little difficult." The estranged couple<a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20603919,00.html"> filed for divorce</a> in June 2012.

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